Which response do you think illustrates the healthiest self-esteem: "“Congratulations on winning the freestyle swim relay!”
A “Thanks, it feels good. And you won the diving competition, that’s great!”
B “I don’t know why I won. I don’t have good form.”
C “Yeah, I made those other swimmers look like tadpoles!”
Which response do you think illustrates the healthiest self-esteem: "Excuse me, but I think you’re in the wrong seat. Could you check your ticket?”
A “Excuse me, but I was here first. Why don’t you find an empty seat?”
B “Oh, sorry! I always mess things up!”
C “You’re right; I apologize. I’m supposed to be in the row behind.”
Which response do you think illustrates the healthiest self-esteem: "Hey, that’s my sweater. You didn’t ask if you could borrow it!”
A “Sorry. You weren’t home, but I should have asked you first.”
B “Quit whining. It looks better on me anyway.”
C “I don’t know what I was thinking. It doesn’t even look good on me. I’ll give you one of mine to make up for it.”
Describe yourself from a perspective of unhealthy self-esteem, ignoring your strengths, emphasizing your imperfections, and thinking that others are better than you.
Now describe yourself from a perspective of healthy self-esteem, recognizing your strengths, accepting your imperfections, as knowing that all people have equal value.
Did you notice that answering one of those made you feel better than the other? When we focus on our strengths and keep a healthy self-esteem, we not only feel better inside, but we are able to be the best versions of ourselves.
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